A spin off of the Yiddish word 'Baleboste' pronounced (bah-luh-buhs-tuh). It means a capable, efficient housewife, esp. a traditional Jewish one, devoted to maintaining a well-run home, who typically in control or wears the pants. So a ball buster is now known to be any woman who trys to control others, especially men.
"Mama, why are you always yelling at me? You don't have to be such a ballbuster, okay?